was selected as part of a group of listeners to be part of the
pre-release team for Hugh Hewitt’s new book, The Happiest Life.
Shortly before Thanksgiving I received a PDF copy and I promptly
began to devour the book.
know that I am concerned with ethics, morality and in some cases high
minded discussion of theology. Happiness fits in well with these
subjects. In fact one of my all time favorite and life changing
books is “Happiness is a Serious Problem” by Dennis Prager. I
have given Dennis’s book to at least half a dozen people, and I
have loaned my own copy out to at least another half dozen since I
first read it in 2004. Needless to say I think Happiness is Serious
business and the subject is one to be explored with as voracious an
appetite.
one little thing. The book walks in between religious talk and
secular philosophy a fair amount. For those unaware Hugh Hewitt is a
Protestant/Catholic (he explains it within the pages having been
raised in a household of dual faiths), and for a time he had a
program on PBS called “Searching For God In America” some of these conversations can be found over at Amazon. Points from these discussions grew and became building blocks for Hugh’s thesis on Happiness.
but to let them know this is a book that will get you thinking about
the questions religion asks. It isn’t preachy, it isn’t bible
beating down your throat or upside the head it is just honest life
experiences and evaluation of what adds up to Happiness, from the
point of view of an educated Christian man.
those gifts: Encouragement, Energy, Enthusiasm, Empathy, Good
Humor, Graciousness, and Gratitude. I came to refer to them
simply as E4G3. By likening it to “Star Wars” character R2D2 it
became easier for me to remember these gifts and to better think of
their meaning within my own life. I consider myself a fairly happy
person, though this has not always been the case. It took reading
Dennis Prager’s book to get me down the right track of owning my
feelings so many years ago. Where I see myself the weakest on these
gifts is the area of Empathy.
chapter so eloquently put empathy in it’s rightful place. “Show
Up, and shut up.” The truth is for the most part people don’t
want to hear how you have had it worse, or how you can’t understand
their pain but feel for them. When people are in their worst
straights sometimes they just need you there, somebody to cry on,
somebody to lift them up, and if they want to know your story they
will ask. I’m horrible when it comes to empathy. I can sympathize
all day long but it is clear to me this something I need to work on.
When it comes to the remaining six gifts I would like to think I am
better at them, though there are clearly areas where I stop short.
To this degree I created a little tool which I will elaborate on
later.
devoted to seven givers: The Spouse, the Parent, Family Members,
Friends, The Coworker, Teachers, and Churches. With a bonus chapter
dedicated to the greatest giver, Christ. I said earlier that Hugh
wasn’t too churchy in the book and despite what the last two
chapters may have you thinking he really isn’t.
to believe, nor is he coming forward with the consequences of
disbelief. What he does lay out are the benefits of knowing Church
goers, and how the addition of a Church in your life can lift you up.
With the exception of a few holidays and family occasions I have not
attended Church since 2010, I wasn’t married in a Church (2011) but
I can relate to the advice given in the chapter.
“Everyone-every single person
reading this and every person in the world-needs to belong to a
church no matter whether they believe or not. They need to do so
because the questions asked and debated in churches are the most
important questions; they have been asked since the beginning of
time for the simple reason that we are made to wonder about this
world and our places in it. Those questions and that wondering are
not served – reliably and seriously – anywhere except in a
church. And thus that deep, deep hunger is fed only through life
within a body devoted to answering these enormous questions of why
the world is the way it is and how we ought to live in it,” 168
Happiest Life.
Hugh isn’t saying you need to go to a Catholic church. For that
matter it probably wouldn’t even have to be a Christian Church.
Throughout the chapter he discussed his work on “Searching for God
In America”, this discussion took him into very serious discussions
with Jews, Christians, Mormons, and even the Dali Lama What Hugh is
arguing for is that the relationship in the Church community is such
that it fosters discussions. Not everybody who attends a Church has
the same philosophy on everything. Hugh discusses that and I can
tell from my own life experiences that this is true. The one and
only Church that I have been a member of was Community United
Methodist Church. From my time there I can say with quite a bit of
certainty that I was one of the few Conservatives in the pews. I
went because it was a good community and more importantly because I
was intellectually and yes spiritually challenged there.
Churches and would frequent a Wesleyan church but as I chose to smoke
cigars and drink the occasional glass of wine I could not readily
become a member. This didn’t mean I wasn’t welcome, it just
meant I could not be on a committee. I could attend bible studies,
small groups, Sunday or Saturday service and I was of course invited
into the homes of other parishioners. The community was what Hugh
suggests is important and from my own experiences I would have to
concur.
not a theologian stays away from the heavy stuff, and merely touches
on the important tidbits with guideposts for those willing to take
the plunge into the works of those serious heavyweights in Christian
Theology. His message on the greatest giver boils down to this one
paragraph.
“Everything I have learned in all
these years and years of broadcasting is that kindness is just,
cruelty is unjust, and that fairness is quite easily recognized,
understood and acted upon. I have that undesrtaning due to my
attending church for more than fifty years and listening to constant
repetitions of the same readings and the same messages. That is what
is wonderful about faithful church attendance. Something gets
through. Something sticks,” 155 Happiest Life.
points are timeless. So much so, that I took the liberty of modeling
some of Benjamin Franklin’s own inventions and applying it to the
book. For those who do not know, Mr. Franklin was a very dedicated
and disciplined man. For whatever his faults, and I hear he had more
than a few, he did work very hard at being a more disciplined and
productive person. Every night he would ask himself two questions:
What good did I do today? What good will I do tomorrow? He
would then reflect upon what he considered to be the 13 greatest
values: Temperance, Silence, Order, Resolution, Frugality,
Industry, Sincerity, Justice, Moderation, Cleanliness, Tranquility,
Chastity, and Humility. These values were neatly organized on a
chart which can be found over at PocketMod.
For the sake of those dedicated to the values of Happiness:
Encouragement, Energy, Enthusiasm Empathy, Good Humor, Graciousness,
and Gratitude, I have provided my own PocketMod design that is
hosted here.
It is the perfect New Years resolution and arrives just in time to
set you down the New Year with a path of success. The original release date was December 31st, and both iBooks and Barnes and Noble are still advertising this date, Amazon is
If you know anybody who needs a bit of Happiness in their life, I encourage you to order the book. The lessons within will help not only the individual but once applied will bring Happiness to others as well.
Update: I received a message from the publisher this morning. Amazon had a computer glitch that said the book was going to be postponed. This is not the case and it will still be available at your door on December 31 as originally planned. Also if you are a fan of the Kobo like I am, the Happiest Life is available via Kobo books for pre-order as well.


